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Tuesday, August 27, 2019

معاہدہ امرتسر 1846

معاہدہ امرتسر 1846

معاہدہ امرتسر جو 16 مارچ 1846 کو دستخط ہوئے معاہدہ لاہور کے تناظر میں لکھا گیا ایک معاہدہ تھا جو سکھ حاکم گلاب سنگھ اور انگریزوں کے مابین ہوا یہ معاہدہ پہلی سکھ انگریز جنگ کے بعد 16 مارچ 1846 کو دستخط ہوا۔ اس معاہدے کی پہلی شق کے مطابق گلاب سنگھ نے دریائے سندھ کے مشرق میں موجود تمام پہاڑی علاقے جبکہ راوی کے مغرب میں موجود علاقے بشمول چھمبا اور لاہور کے علاوہ خرید لیے اس معاہدے کے تحت لاہور کو گوروں کے پاس ہی رہنے دیا گیا یہ بات معاہدہ لاہور کی شق نمبر چھ کے مطابق تھی۔ اس کے تحت گلاب سنگھ کو 75 لاکھ روپے دینے تھے جن میں سالانہ خراج بھی شامل تھے یوں جموں کشمیر کا پورا علاقہ ڈوگرا تسلط میں آگیا۔

پس منظر
پہلی سکھ انگریز جنگ میں سکھوں کے ہار میں گلاب سنگھ کا کردار رہا تھا یوں وہ انگریزوں کے منظور نظر بننے میں کامیاب ٹھہرا نیز خود جموں کا پیدائشی ہونے کے سبب وہ کشمیر پر اپنی حکومت کرنے کا خواب پورا کرنا چاہتا تھا۔

معاہدہ امرتسر 16 مارچ 1846ء

شق نمبر 1
حکومت برطانیہ تمام پہاڑی علاقہ مع دریائے سندھ کے مشرق اور دریائے راوی کے مغرب کا درمیانی علاقہ مع چھمب اور بغیر لاہور کے جو مارچ 1846ء کے معاہدہ لاہور کی دفعہ 6 کے تحت ریاست لاہور کو دے دیا گیا ہے، مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ اور ان کی اولاد نرینہ کے آزاد قبضے میں تبدیل کرتی ہے۔

شق نمبر 2
خطۂ زمین کی مشرقی سرحد، جو مندرجہ بالا دفعہ کے تحت مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ کے نام منتقل ہو گئی ہے، اس مقصد کے لیے حکومت برطانیہ اور مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ کی صرف سے مقرر کردہ کمشنر طے کریں گے۔ اور سروے کے بعد ایک الگ انتظام کے تحت اس کا تعین کیا جائے گا۔

شق نمبر 3
مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ اور ان کے وارثوں کے نام مندرجہ بالا دفعات کی رو سے جو انتقال کیا گیا ہے، اس کے معاوضے میں مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ حکومت برطانیہ کو 75 لاکھ روپے (نانک شاہی) ادا کرے گا۔ 50 لاکھ روپیہ اس معاہدے کے شروع ہوتے وقت اور 25 لاکھ روپیہ یکم اکتوبر 1846ء کو یا اس سے قبل ادا کریں گے۔

شق نمبر 4
مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ کے ان علاقوں کی سرحدیں کسی بھی وقت حکومت برطانیہ کی مرضی کے بغیر تبدیل نہ ہو سکیں گی۔

شق نمبر 5
اگر مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ اور ریاست لاہور یا کسی پڑوسی ریاست کے درمیان میں کوئی تنازع مسئلہ کھڑا ہو تو طے کرنے کے لیے انہیں حکومت برطانیہ کو ثالث مقرر کرنا ہو گا۔ اور حکومت برطانیہ کا فیصلہ ان کے لیے قابل قبول ہو گا۔

شق نمبر 6
مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ اور ان کے ورثا اپنی تمام قوت کے ساتھ برطانوی سپاہیوں کے ساتھ شامل ہو جائیں گے، جب وہ پہاڑوں پر یا ان کے مقبوضہ علاقوں کے پڑوس میں مصروف ہوں گے۔

شق نمبر 7
برطانوی حکومت مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ کو بیرونی حملہ آوروں سے بچانے میں اس کی معاونت کرے گی۔

شق نمبر 8
مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ برطانوی حکومت کی اطاعت قبول کرتے ہیں اور اس اطاعت کی نشانی کے طور پر برطانوی حکومت کو ہر سال ایک گھوڑا، 12 بکریاں اعلیٰ نسل کی (چھ بکریاں اور چھ بکرے) اور تین جوڑے کشمیری شالوں کے پیش کریں گے۔

یہ معاہدہ فریڈرک کیوری اور میجر ہنری منٹگمری لارنس کے ذریعے رائٹ آنریبل سرہنری ہارڈنگز، گورنر جنرل کے حکم سے برطانوی حکومت اور بہ نفس نفیس مہاراجہ گلاب سنگھ کے درمیان میں طے ہوا اور آج کے روز رائٹ آنریبل سرہنری ہاردنگز، جی سی بی، گورنر جنرل کی مہر ثبت ہو کر منظور ہوا (امرتسر میں آج مارچ کی 16 دن 1846ء عیسوی بمطابق ربیع الاول کے 17 ویں دن 1262 ہجری کو لکھا گيا)

(دستخط) ہنری ہاردنگز (مہر)

(دستخط) فریڈرک کیوری

(دستخط) ہنری منٹگمری لارنس

Saturday, August 17, 2019

Islamic Information

Saturday, August 3, 2019

PPSC. FPSC.CSS.Questions .

*Very very imp for PPSC. FPSC.CSS

1) : Objective Resolution Was Passed By? (Liaqat Ali Khan On 12 beMarch 1949)
2) : Quran Pak Other Name? (Furqan)
3) : Montegu Chelmsford Reform Date? (1919)
4) : The Number Of Rivers In Balochistan? (7)
5) : Surah Name On Ant Is? (Numl)
6) : First Democractic Election In Pakistan? ( 7 Dec 1970)
7) : Baltic Countries? (Latvia, Finland, Poland, Germany, Russia etc)
8) : Pirpur Report Date? (1938)
9) : Cabinut Mission? (1946)
10) : Cube Root Of Unity? (1)
11) : Khalid Bin Waleed Accepted Islam In? (6 Hijri)
12) : Abu Sufyan Accepted Islam In? (8 Hijri)
13) : Hazrat Muazz Was Governer Of? (Yemen)
14) : The Inverse Of Scalar Matrix? (Scalar Matrix)
15) : Sin180-x? (Sinx)
16) : Pak Celebrate Defence Day From? (1966)
17) : Old Name Of Attock? (Campbell Pur)
18) : Pak Afghan Border Length? (2430 KM)
19) : Geneva Pact? (1988)
20) :Which Country Is Called Rising Sun? (Japan)
21) : How Many Agencies Are In FATA? (7)
22) : King Of Habsha’s Religion? {Armah (Najashi)}
23) : Most Deveoped Continent? (Europe)
24) : What Will Be Last Letter Of UTYEAB When You Arrange It? (Y)
25) : What Will Be Third Letter Alphabeticallu Arengement in “Management”? (G)
26) : If Yesterday Was Friday Then After Tomorrow Will Be? (Monday)
27) : How Many Months Have 31 Days In Year? (7)
28) : In A Room There Are Males And Females, If There Are 3/2 Male Then How Many Females Are In The Room, When Room Contain 30 People? (10)
29) : Book Purchased In 30 Rs And Sold In 40 Rs Find The Profit In %? (33. 3%)
30) : Railway Minister? (Sheikh Rasheed Ahmad)
31) : Governer Sindh? (Imran Ismail)
32) : Lowest Point On Earth Is? (Challenger Deep)
33) : Jami ul Quran Title? (Hazrat Usman R.A)
34) : Biggest District Areawise In Pakistan? (Chagai)
35) : Who Wrote Loyal Muhammadan? (Sir Syed Ahmed Khan)
36) : China Pak Border Agreement Date? (2 March 1963)
37) : Where Pakistan Did Its Nuclear Test? (Ras Koh Hills In District Chagai)
38) : Pakistan 1200 Mile Border Length With Which Country? (Afghanistan) Confirm It
39) : Basel Is City Of? (Switzerland)
40) : Smallest Continent? (Australia)
41) : Highest Civil Award Of Pakistan? (Nishan e Pakistan)
42) : First Women Governer General? (Begum Raana)
43) : 2nd PM Of Pakistan? (Khuwaja Nazimuddin)
44) : Empty Set Is Known As? (Finite)
45) : Chaura Chauri Incident Date? (5 Feb 1922)
46) : Longest River Of Asia? (Yangtze)
47) : Saffah Means? (Top Of Mountain)
48) : Nisab of Gold? (7.5 Tola Or 84.87 Grams)
49) : 1857 Jung e Azadi Exact Date? (10 May 1857)
50) : Relation Of Hazrat Hamza With Holy Prophet PBUH? (Companion As Well As Paternal Uncle)
51) : “Prescribe” Synonym? (Order, Command, Dictate)
52) : Cube Root of -2? (-1.25)
53) : India Quite Movement? (8 August 1942)
54) : Kaleemullah Is A Title Of? (Hazrat Musa AS)
55) : Speaker of National Assembly? (Asad Qaiser)
56) : 90% of 90? (81)
57) : Old Name Of India? (Hindustan, Bharat or Bhartavarsha etc)
59) : Israel Was Title Of? (Hazrat Yaqoob AS)
60) : Which Place Connect Pakistan With Tajikistan? (Wakhan)
61) : Laat And Uzaa Are? (Idol)
62) : First Foreign Minister? (Muhammad Zafrullah Khan)
63) : Sindh Bombay Se Separate Karne Ka Mutalba Kiska Tha? {Muslims (Muhammad Ali Jinnah 14 Points)}
64) : FIFA WC 2018 Winner? (France)
65) : President During 1956 Constitution? (Iskander Mirza)
66) : Quaid e Azam Left Congress In? (December 1920)
67) : Makkah Conquered? (8 Hijri)
68) : Mavakhat e Madinah Was Between? (Ansaar And Mahajareen)
69) : Asadullah Is A Title Of? (Hazrat Ali R.A)
70) : Quaid Date Of Birth? (25 Dec 1876)
71) : Nehru Report Date? (30 August 1928)
72) : Dark Continent? (Africa)
73) : Red Sea Is Also Known As? (Gulf Of Arabia)
74) : Capital Of Kyrgyzstan? (Bishkek)
75) : Who Separated Bengal In 1913? (Lord Curzon)
76) : Length of Pakistan Coast? (1046 KM)
77) : Badar Is A Name Of? (Village) (Meaning Of Badar Is “Full Moon”)
78) : The Largest Producer Of Carpet? (Iran¬)
79) : Sin 90°? (1)
80) : Abdul Salam Got Noble Prize In? (1979 in Physics)
81) : Srilanka Capital? (Colombo)
82) : Pak Aghan Border Name? (Durand Line)
83) : Who Gave The Idea of Pakistan? (Allama Iqbal)
84) : Which Was The First Book of Allama Iqbal? (Asrar e Khudi)
85) : First Hajj Offered In? (9 Hijri)
86) : What Was The Father Name Of Hazrat Usman? (Affan Ibn Abi Al’As)
87) : Which Is The Oldest City Of Pakistan? (Multan)
88) : Currency Of Turkey? (Lira)
89) : Land Of White Elephants Is? (Thailand)
90) : 1st Khalifa Of Islam? (Hazrat Abu Bakar R.A)
91) : First Pakistani Astronaut? (Namira Salim In 2009)
92) : First Governer Of Pakistan? (Muhammad Ali Jinnah)
93) : First War With India Over Kashmir? (1947–1948 Indo-Pak War)
94) : Tashkat Declaration? (1966)
95) : Badshai Mosque Was Built In Which Year? (1673 By Mughal Emperor Aurangzeb)
96) : Largest Road of Pakistan Is? (N-5 National Highway)
97) : The Number of Idols Were In Khana Kaaba? (360)
98) : 2nd Largest Glacier In Pakistan Is? (Baltoro Glacier)
99) : "Now or Never"? (1933 By Ch. Rehmat Ali)
100) : When Pak Joined UNO? (30 September 1947)
101) : Holy Prophet Was Born In? (571 AD)
102) : Atique Is The Title Of? (Hazrat Abu Bakr R.A)
103) : 1st War Of Panipat Date? (21 April 1526)
104) : 1st Women Speaker of Balochistan Assembly? (Rahila Hameed Khan Durrani)
105) : Which Country Opposed Pakistan’s Membership In UNO? (Afghanistan)
106) : Which Angel Brings Revelations? (Hazrat Jibraiel AS)
107) : Capital Of Mangolia? (Ulaanbaatar)
108) : 2016 Olympics Kahan Hue? (Brazil)
109) : When Did Quaid e Azam Gave Delhi Pect? (1916)
110) : 48 Heads Of Hen And Cow Together And 140 Legs, How Many Hen Are There? (26)
111) : Sulah Hudabiya Date? (6 Hijri)
112) : Malala Ko Award Kis Liye Mila? (Peace)
113) : Tehreek e Khilafat Date? (Started In 1919)
114) : Ali was born_____ 20 August,1997. (On)
115) : Strength Of Muslims In Ghazwae Badar? (313)
116) : Name Of First Book Of Ahadees? (Sahifa Sadika)
117) : Pakistan Joined Which Organization In 2017? {SCO (Shnghai Cooperation Organization)}
118) : Which Country Accepted Pakistan First? (Iran)
119) : First Moazzin Of Islam? (Hazrat Bilal R.A)
120) : Spell Check Key? (F7)
121) : Indus Treaty? (World Bank)
122) : Area Of Forests In Pakistan? {In 1990 (3.28%), Now (1.91%)}
123) : Yamama Kis K Doar Mein Hui? (Hazrat Abu Bakkar RA)
124) : Mostly Coal Is Found In Which Area Of Pakistan? {Thar (Sindh)}
125) : Zakat Made Obligatory In? (2nd Hijri)
126) : Daughters Of Prophet Muhammad PBUH? (4 Daughters)
127) : Most Mentioned Prophet In Quran? {Hazrat Musa A.S (Mentioned 135 Times)}
128) : Integral Of Cotx? (In |sin x| + C)
129) : Mother Name Of Hazrat Ishaac? (Hazrat Sarah)
130) : Pass Between Chitral And Afghanistan? (Dorah Pass)
131) : Muslims Came Back Without Fight In Which Ghazwa? (Tabook)
132) : Nearest Planet To Earth? (Venus)
133) : Pakistan Opposed India In Inclusion Of? (NSG)
134) : Measurement Of Earthquake? (Richterscale)
135) : Friction Is Maximum Between Tyres And Road During? (Hard Break)
136) : Ambassoder Of Common Wealth Countries Are Called? (High Commissioner)
137) : Circumference Of Earth? (40,075 KM)
138) : IMF Functions? (Maintaining Balance Between Demand and Supply of Currencies)
139) : Pentagon is for? (USA Defence Offices)
140) : Sierra Leone Capital? (Freetown)
141) : In Ghazwa Ohad Which Leaded The Enemy Force? (Abu Sufyan)
142) : 1st Female Justice Of Balochistan High Court? (Syeda Tahira Safdar)
143) : Space Between Margin And Before Paragraph is Called? (Indentation)
144) : To Cut Useless Area Of Image Is Called? (Cropping)
145) : Text Styling In Word? (WordArt)
146) : NAM of 1955 In Which Country? (Indonesia)
147) : Saindak Project Is Producing? (Copper And Gold)
148) : Pak Parliamentary System Is? (Bicameral)
149) : Largest Oil Refinery Of Pakistan? (Pak-Arab Refinery Ltd)
150) : Purpose of WTO? (Regulation And International Trade)
151) : Vitamin To Heal Wound? (Vitamin C, Also Called Ascorbic Acid)
152) : Best Source Of Urgent Energy To Athlete? (Carbohydrates)
153) : If A Person Purchase A Book Of 500 And Sale It In 700 Find Percentage of Profit? (40%)
154) : When Pakistan Became A Member Of UNO? (30 Sep 1947)
155) : Jang-e-Furqan Kis Ko Kehty Hain? (Battle Of Badar)
156) : 2+2/2= (3)
157) : Ghazwae Ohad Mein Shaheed Hone Wale Muslims Ki Tadaad? (85)
158) : Pakistan Mein Electric Energy Ki Sabse Bari Source? {Thermal (Both Oil And Gas)}
159) : Location Of Iran With Respect To Pakistan? (West)
160) : Jange Yamama Mein Shaheed Hone Wale Muslims Ki Tadaad? (70)
161) : Date Of Publishing Of Cause Of Revolt? (10 May 1857)
162) : Objective Resolution Was Showed In Assembly On? (7 March 1949)
163) : Noun ''School" Can Be Replaced With? (It)
164) : SAFTA Stands For? (South Asian Free Trade Area)
165) : Strength Of Muslims in Battle of Uhad? (1000)
166) : How Many Articles Are In English? {Two ( A & The)}
167) : IMF Stands For? (International Monetry Fund)
168) : Founder Of Urdu Defence Association? (Mohsin Ul Mulk)
169) : How Many Times Name Of Hazrat Jibrael Is Mentioned In Quran ? (4 Times)
170) : Mount Olympus Is In? (Greece)
171) : Last Prophet Sent To Bani Israel? (Hazrat Eesa AS)
172) : France Curreny Before Euro? (Franc)
173) : What Is One Tenth Of 90? (90/10 = 9)
174) : What Is One Tenth Of 120? (120/10 = 12)
175) : Hazrat Bilal R.A Was Slave Of? (Ummaiya Bin Half)
176) : Mostly Articles Come Before?{Noun (i.e Singular Noun)}
177) : Literal Meaning Of Islam? (Voluntry Submission To Allah)
178) : In Class Of 1500 Students 1200 Are Present, Find The Percentage Of Present Students? (80%)
179) : In Class Of 500 Students 340 Are Present, Find The Percentage Of Absent Students? (32%)
180) : Akhuwat (Mawakhaat) Means? (Brotherhood)
181) : What is Hudabiya? {Treaty (Place)}
182) : Ziarat Is The Residency Of? (Quaid e Azam)
183) : Age of Holy Prophet PBUH as Fujjar? (15)
184) : Who Translated The Holy Quran In Urdu First? (Maulana Aashiq)
185) : Name Of China-India Border? (McMohan Line)
186) : Jihad Of Women Is? (Hijaab)
187) : They Are Three Brothers, Ali is ______ Of The Three? (Cleverest)
188) : He Served Us ______ Breakfast? (A Good)
189) : Where Are Salt Mines? (Khewra)
190) : Fattah Khyber? (7 Hijri)
191) : Namaz e Istasqa Is Offered For? (Rain)
192) : Jinnah Research Centre Was Established In The Year? (1991)
193) : Lahore Resolution Date? (23rd March 1940)
194) : 1st World War Ended In? (1918)
195) : Largest Island? (Greenland)
196) : OPEC Stand For? (Organization Of Petroleum Exporting Countries)
197) : Diamer Bhasha Dam Is On Which River? (River Indus)
198) : Jange Uhad Ka Maarka Kab Pesh Aya? (3 Hijri)
199) : Jinnah Research Centre Is Situated In? (Queen Maund Land, Eastern Antarctica)
200) : Name The Only Sahabi Mentioned In Holy Quran? (Hazrat Zaid Bin Haris RA)
201) : FSB Is A Secret Agency Of Which Country? (Russia)
202) : "Morals Of Quran Are Embodiment Of Holy Prophet (S.A.W)", Who Said This? (Hazrat Ayesha R.A)
203) : Wazeere Khazana? (Asad Umar)
204) : Roohullah Is The Title Of? (Hazrat Esa A.S)
205) : Zaboor Was Revealed On? (Hazrat Dawood A.S)
206) : Length Of LOC? (740KM)
207) : Mangla Dam Is On Which River? (River Jehlum)
208) : Which Province Of Pakistan Is Called Babul Islam? (Sindh)
209) : Barri Doab Is Between? (River Ravi And Beas)
210) : Moaztain Surah Name? (Surah Al-Falak And Surah An-Naas)
211) : Which Surah Was Recited In Front Of Najashi? (Surah Maryam)
212) : Sea With Most Salted Water? (Dead Sea)
213) : Luknow Pact Was Between Which Parties? (Indian National Congress And Muslim League)
214) : Lengthiest Constitution? (Indian Constitution)
215) : Shah Walliullah Died In Which Year? (1762)
216) : Siachin Glacier Is Situated In Which Mountain Range? (Eastern Karakoram Range)
217) : If A Train Covers 120 Miles Per Hour. How Much Will It Cover In 12 Minutes? (38.4KM or 24 Miles)
218) : Which Surah Is Called The Heart Of Holy Quran? (Surah Yaseen)
219) : If Yesterday Was Monday Then What Will Be The Day After Tomorrow? (Thursday)
220) : 500 Students Are In A Class, 360 Are Boys, Find The Girls%? (28%)
221) : If A Helicopter Need 50 Gallons To Move 320 Kilometer. Then How Much Gallons Helicopter Need If It Moves 400 Kilometer? (62.5 Gallons)
222) : Amjad And Ahmed Kept 24 Balloon, Amjad Kept Three Time More Then Ahmed, How Much Amjad Kept? (18 Balloons)
223) : If A Train Covers 120 Km Per Hour, How Much Will It Cover In 18 Minutes? (36 Km)
224) : np2=20 Find Value Of n? (10)
225) : KANUPP In Karachi Was Built With Assistance From? (Canadian Assistance)

Friday, August 2, 2019

Asma Ul Husna 99 Names Of Allah

Wednesday, July 17, 2019

Cognitive Behavioral Theory

Cognitive Behavioral Theory, or CBT, is a theory of counseling that believes that our thoughts cause our feelings, and our feelings result in our actions. The idea is that if we can identify our thoughts, we can change our feelings and thus our actions.

Compare these two people

For example, let us say that two people receive a low grade on their first quiz in a class. These two people have radically different thoughts (interpretations) regarding this low grade. Person 1 thinks, “This is terrible. I feel hopeless. I am never going to get a good grade in this class.” Person 2 thinks, “Ok, I am disappointed, but maybe this is going to be a class that really challenges me to grow. I am going to stay calm and do what I can to bring my grade up.”

Which person do you think will end up performing better in the class?

An important point is that our thoughts are not always true. Our interpretation of a situation could be inaccurate:

“…perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not” (Surah Baqarah, 2:216).

#1 Awareness and Positive Self Talk

The challenge is that many of us are not aware of our thoughts! We automatically have these negative thoughts, and then we feel bad and wonder why! So the goal is to become more aware of our thoughts and then to change negative self talk to positive self talk.

For example, sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the responsibilities of motherhood. I think that I’m not doing a good job and then I feel down. What I have learned to do is to stop and become aware of my feelings. Once I realize that I am feeling down, I immediately talk to myself in positive ways, such as:

“No mother is perfect. I have a lot of good qualities as a mom and I can try to find solutions to any problems I am facing.”

#2 Self awareness is the key

The most important step is to be aware of ourselves when we start having negative feelings. Some people are not aware of themselves and thus, keep feeding themselves with negative thoughts that do not help them in any way!

CBT is important for being a happy Muslim because positive thinking leads to positive actions, and positive actions bring us closer to Allah

“Those who believe and perform good deeds, We shall indeed grant pardon to them for their misdeeds and shall reward them according to the best of their deeds.” (Al Ankabut, 29:7).

So the way to feel happier is to keep feeding your mind with positive self talk until you feel better.
Your self talk should be something that you believe and should not be mere words.

Half full or half empty?

The universal example of this is a cup that is half filled with water. Some see the cup as half full. Some see it as half empty. It’s your choice how you see the cup. And your choice makes all the difference in how you will feel!

For example, when you are facing a challenge in life, rather than thinking, “Oh why me? Why is this happening to me!?”, you can instead tell yourself, “Out of this challenge, benefits will come insha’Allah.”

This idea is supported by the following ahadith:

“How excellent the affairs of the believer: his affair, all of it, is good for him; and this is not the case with anyone except the believer; if prosperity comes to him, he is thankful (to God), and if adversity falls on him, he perseveres patiently: so it is all good (for him).” ¹

“No fatigue, nor disease, nor anxiety, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that.” ²

When life is not going our way, instead of becoming angry or frustrated because we are not getting what we want, we can say to ourselves, “This is a normal part of life. Things are not always going to go my way.”

This positive thought is supported by this Quranic verse:

“You shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in your personal selves; and you shall certainly hear much that will grieve you, from those who received the Book before you and from those who worship many gods. But if you persevere patiently, and guard against evil, then you will surely triumph” (Surah Ale Imran, 3:186).

When a relationship with a person is not going well, rather than becoming sad about it, we can say to ourselves, “It’s normal for relationships to change–to evolve or devolve.”

The Quran teaches:

“Whatever you have will end, but what Allah has is everlasting. And We will surely give those who were patient their reward according to the best of what they used to do” (An Nahl 16:96).

#3 You are not your thoughts:

An extremely important point to understand is that you are not your thoughts or feelings! A lot of people become confused with their thoughts and feelings as if they are one and the same! This is not true at all. You can learn to separate or detach yourself from your thoughts and feelings. You can look at your thoughts and feelings with an objective view and decide whether you really want to have those thoughts and feelings or not. This takes practice of course.

#4 Does Islam Teach Us To Ignore Our Feelings?

Being aware of your thoughts requires self honesty–being honest with yourself about your thoughts. It also requires self compassion–being understanding and caring towards yourself–a normal human being who has negative thoughts sometimes!

If we search the Quran and ahadith, we will find that Islam does not expect us to ignore our feelings and actually encourages us to face our negative feelings so that we can overcome them.

Consider the following Quranic verses and hadiths:

A man once said to the Prophet Muhammad: “The laws of Islam are too heavy for me, so tell me something that I can easily follow.” The Prophet replied: “Let your tongue be always busy with the remembrance of God.” ³

As we can see from this blessed hadith, the Prophet

did not rebuke people for admitting that religion can seem hard sometimes. The Prophet

accepted this man’s feeling that sometimes religion can seem difficult, and then he gave the man some hopeful advice.

And consider this verse in Surah Maryam:

“And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm tree. She said, “Oh, I wish I had died before this and was in oblivion, forgotten.” But he called her from below her, “Do not grieve; your Lord has provided beneath you a stream. And shake toward you the trunk of the palm tree; it will drop upon you ripe, fresh dates.” (Surah Maryam, 19:23-25)

Maryam (alayhisalam) expressed her pain and suffering in an honest way, and Merciful Allah

does not chastise her for this, but He

comforts her with a stream and fresh dates.

The Prophet

experienced negative emotions at times, and Allah

offered him comfort and guidance.

“Then perhaps you would kill yourself through grief over them, [O Muhammad], if they do not believe in this message, [and] out of sorrow” (Al Kahf 18:6).

“Your Lord (O Muhammad (Peace be upon him)) has neither forsaken you nor hated you. And indeed the Hereafter is better for you than the present (life of this world) And verily, your Lord will give you (all good) so that you shall be well-pleased.” (Ad Duha 93: 3-5)

Our beloved Prophet

experienced feelings of grief and sorrow, and Allah

acknowledged his negative feelings and did not scold him for having such feelings.

#5 Take Action In Spite of Negative Thoughts

Sometimes we can’t seem to get negative thoughts out of our heads. In this case, it’s important to just take positive actions in spite of your thoughts. Positive actions will show your mind who is boss! They will make you feel better because you did something rather than just wallowing in the negative thinking. Positive actions involve taking baby steps to achieve a goal, consulting with another person for ideas, or just exercising.

The best positive action (of course) is to call on Allah

and make dua to Him to help you. Allah

says in the Quran:

“…Call on Me, I will respond to you” (Ghafir, 40:60).

#6 Recurring Thoughts

An important point is that everyone has recurring thoughts sometimes that they can’t seem to get out of their heads. The main reason we have recurring thoughts is that something has happened that has seriously violated a core belief we’ve had all through life. Because beliefs are part of our identity, we can become quite shaken up when a belief has been seriously contradicted by a life event. It’s important to realize that it’s okay to realize that a lifelong belief you have held on to is not 100% accurate. These recurring thoughts are telling you to modify that belief in some way so that you can have an easier life. So again, you must start to be aware of your thoughts and beliefs so that you can modify them and thus feel better insha’Allah!

For example, I once was quite internally shaken up by someone I realized was trying to use me for her own benefit while totally disregarding my wants and needs as a fellow human being. I was quite shaken up by this because I always saw people as inherently good. Even though I still believe that deep down people are good, unfortunately some people are so mentally disturbed that we cannot sit and wait around for them to become the good people they really are! Sometimes it’s best to set boundaries with those kinds of people, for our own mental health!

#7 Guilt

A very common problem is that people feel guilty about bad actions they have done in their past. The Prophet

solves this problem for us by encouraging us to just follow a bad deed with a good deed:

“Be conscious of Allah wherever you are. Follow the bad deed with a good one to erase it, and engage others with beautiful character.” ⁴

#8 Anxiety

Positive self talk is especially useful when we are having anxiety or panic attacks. The negative thoughts that fuel such anxiety are usually along the lines of “I cannot handle this” or “Allah is not going to help me.” So some very useful positive self statements are “I can handle this step by step” and “Allah is with me. Allah will help me. He wants us to call on Him.”

But of course, the first step is to be aware of yourself and to accept your feelings as being there. Accepting your feelings means that you respect yourself enough to acknowledge that you have feelings. You don’t have to act out of those feelings, but you do need to accept them as being there in your heart. We can’t change something we don’t recognize or accept.